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What do you do if you’re about to lose the roof over your head?

OneCoach CEO John Assaraf will be among the guests addressing that question on Larry King Live, tonight, July 30 at 6 p.m. Pacific (9 p.m. Eastern). Tune in to hear John’s perspective on how to keep the right mindset now amidst so much gloom and doom.

You can send questions to John and other guests by e-mail or video at the Larry King Live site here.

Tune in to Larry King Live tonight to see John!

Creating the life of your dreams requires you be totally honest with yourself so you can move forward in your life.

Everyone has made mistakes. Everyone. And all of us have areas in life where we know we are not as strong as we’d like to be. We all know that no one is perfect, but we still may beat ourselves up over these perceived weaknesses.

We can obsess about choices we’ve made that turned out to be “bad,” and we can bemoan our shortcomings, but this will hold us back. What we need to do is acknowledge them, come up with a strategy for managing them, then MOVE ON.

What if, instead of beating yourself up about the bad choices you have made in the past, you focused on what that mistake taught you? If you looked at every error in judgment as a learning experience, you would feel so much better about yourself and your past actions. You could say, “OK, I learned something valuable from that mistake, and I know not to make this same choice again.” And, most importantly, you
would be able to move on with your life and not dwell on the past anymore.

If you are always looking backward at your past, you cannot look forward to your future.

Consider your own life: Have there been relationships that ended? Business that went belly up? Or other, ongoing challenges, such as not producing enough cash flow to cover expenses? Not making your family a priority?

Examine these situations and consider what they have to teach you: what changes you should make in your life, what strategies you should adopt, what you should delegate, what you should just let go?

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You have thousands of beliefs, both positive and negative, that cause you to perceive and act in certain ways, in your business life as well as in your personal life.

The effects of your beliefs are not as abstract as you might think. You and I act in absolute accordance with what our internal beliefs are, and not with what we may want. We can override our beliefs temporarily using our will power, but I assure you that over the long haul the ‘internal’ image we have of our self will always win.

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What is optimum performance?

The question raises different responses from different people. Have you ever thought about how much better you could be doing with your small business or in your career? What about your relationship with someone you love or the state of your health right now?

I have to admit that at any point in my life, one or more of these areas needs more attention than I give it.

There seems to be so much to do, so much to accomplish if ‘more’ is the focus.

Let me suggest that the quest for more is a trap. It never stops.

Optimum performance is about playing life at the highest possible level. If we are so full of potential, then why are most of us not living up to that potential in every area of our life?

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“In times of change the learners will inherit the earth, while the learned find themselves beautifully equipped to live in a world that no longer exists.”

Your business, your clients, and your world are in a constant state of movement and change. The above quote from Eric Hoffer does a great job of explaining the importance of embracing change. If you stand still or stop growing, then your competition may pass you by, or the needs and wants of your clients may change.

It’s been said that people don’t like change and yet the facts show that in the process of change is usually when you are the happiest and most productive. People actually like change, they just don’t like being forced to change, especially by others.

Whether you need to change to keep pace in your business, or you are asking your clients to make changes when they invest in your product or service, you’ll often run into resistance. Let’s take a look at why people tend to resist change:

• You might feel awkward or uncomfortable
• You might feel alone or isolated
• A feeling you can only handle so much at one time
• A tendency to look at the negative first
• A belief that you lack the resources
• People are at different levels of readiness
• Conditioned to revert back to old habits

It is important to recognize these feeling so you can identify them when they show up for you, and so that you are prepared to deal with these issues when they show up for your clients.

Here are seven things to remember when you’re running into resistance to change:

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All the written plans in the world, all the inscribed goals, dreams and desires won’t even make good wallpaper if you don’t take the first action.

Instead of putting off doing what you know you must, dedicate each day to working your plan to get better and to move closer to your goals. Some time ago, I started calling this kind of focus “oxygen-thinking only,” which means that you do only what’s absolutely required to get the result.

Remeber the Apollo 13 movie, when the astronauts were running out of oxygen and there was no time to waste? All you have is one second to do something to move yourself closer to home. There are times in business when that is exactly the right way to operate: oxygen-thinking only. Whatever must be done next gets done, and anything else is just a distraction that gets put off to another day. When you operate in this way, you can actually make procrastination work for instead of against you.

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I think I have been asked at least 5,000 times what it really takes to be successful in business or your career, so I jotted down 10 questions you can use to gauge whether you already have what it takes, or if you need to do a little work to get there.

Many years ago I heard Jim Rohn say that you either pay the price of discipline or the price of regret. Discipline weighs ounces… regret weighs tons!

With that said, here are 10 questions to ask yourself:

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Odds are you don’t consider yourself one, but when you look up “genius” in the American Heritage Dictionary (where, believe it or not, it does not have a picture of Steve Jobs), it says this:

1a. Extraordinary intellectual and creative power. b. A person of extraordinary intellect and talent: “One is not born a genius, one becomes a genius” (Simone de Beauvoir).

There’s more, but that’s the gist of it. So why do we refer to genius as this rare thing, found once in a while in eminent physicists (and sometimes NFL coaches)? In truth, doesn’t every one of us have some “extraordinary creative power”?

Think about it… you definitely do. Maybe you have a knack for connecting with people and putting them at ease. It could be your ability to perceive opportunities where others see problems. Or your  keen eye for color and design. Or your capacity to combine common ingredients into a recipe that’s original and exceptional. 

Admit it, you have a gift. It’s something you’re freakishly good at, you care  passionately about, and have probably taken for granted.

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